Happiness science asserts that the happier you’re, the longer you’ll live!
Do you agree? Are you aware of this? What is your happiness index?
If you look around, you will notice there are some people who generally seem happier than others…
And if you are not as happy as you’d like to be on a daily basis, what can you do about it?
That’s a million dollar question, because there has been a lot of debate among scientists as to whether happiness is a question of environmental, attitudinal, or genetic factors.
Is there a genetically “set point” that influences one’s level of happiness?
If you look across studies, there is foolproof evidence that some people just are happier than others. Just like a thermostat that helps keep the temperature in a room relatively constant…
There are mechanisms inside people that lead them to return to a baseline level of well-being. Likewise, there are personal habits that will affect how happy people are…
And many of these habits are within your sphere of influence!
One of them is to set the right type of goals.
The goals people pursue affect their long-term happiness. People are happiest when they pursue goals that connect them with other people.
In the workplace, this is supported in studies suggesting that when people see their work as connecting to a broader purpose and helping other people achieve their goals, they derive more career satisfaction thereof.
And, of course, satisfaction with your work generally lifts your overall sense of well-being.
In a broader sense, you can distinguish between goals that are competitive versus cooperative.
A competitive goal is one where you want to see yourself do better as other people put up a poor showing–you want to outshine them.
On the other hand, a cooperative goal is one where you try to lift up those around you–family, friends, colleagues, neighbors–so that ultimately, success is shared–everyone is a winner.
The happiest people tend to engage in a lot of cooperative goals rather than competitive ones. This allows them to celebrate their own successes, as well as the successes of the people around them.
Even better, the happiest lot tend to accentuate the positive.
Very few things in life are absolutely good or bad–it’s a mixture of both positive and negative elements.
A great meal at a restaurant may be checkered with problems finding a secure parking slot, or a table that’s a little too close to a potted plant!
But on the whole, happy people tend to focus on the positives, while giving the negatives a wide berth.
The law of focus states that what you focus on grows. As such, focusing on positivity charges and radiates positive energy, which is vital to overall well-being. The converse is also very true.
Again, what you focus on commits to indelible memory in your mind. So if you focus on the positives, when you review your experiences later, your memory will retrieve the positives first…
Which inevitably triggers the production of happiness hormones in your body.
What about forgiveness? Does it contribute to your happiness?
In the course of your life, you’ll be offended by many people!
But when you’ve been wronged, a poor memory is your best response!
Unforgiveness, hate, bitterness, and revenge are luxuries you cannot afford…
Because their weight will greatly drag you down!
Always forgive your enemies–nothing annoys them so much! As they ponder the negatives, you’re up and about producing!
The alternative to forgiveness is harboring vendetta…and what a heavy load to carry trying to get even with your enemies!
The only people you should try to get even with are those who have helped you!
See, the memory of social pain does not go away as quickly as the memory of physical pain. This is because you can regenerate feelings of anger, shame, or embarrassment just by thinking through a negative experience you had in the past. But it’s hard to truly experience the pain of a physical injury when you think about it much later.
Forgiving doesn’t necessarily mean re-trusting or re-admitting those you’re at pain with into your inner circle. It simply means offloading the burden of unforgiveness so you can feel light for the flight.
Remember, if you want to fly, you must give up everything that weighs you down–unforgiveness included!
And you can do more than forgiving–forgetting!
To forgive is to set a prisoner free only to discover that prisoner was you!
Practicing the tips provided in this article will definitely crank up your happiness index.
May you drown in joy and happiness!
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