the optimist laughs to forget…

And the pessimist forgets to laugh!

What are you?

Are you a glass-half empty or half-full kind of a person?

What is your outlook in life? Did you know that life responds to your outlook…and that life is a matter of expectation?

When someone lavishes you with compliments, how do you respond or react?

When it comes to living, do you take things for granted or take them with gratitude?

Thanksgiving is the attitude of a productive life!

If something just awful, or even simply upsetting happens, do you blame yourself?

Do you forget and move on or you create a negative lasting memory?

Perhaps a co-worker didn’t accept your invitation to go for a walk over lunch, or worse, she went out for lunch with another co-worker instead…

Do you immediately think it must be because you’re not attractive at all…and that nobody likes you?

If something goes wrong in the morning…perhaps you got a flat tire or spilled coffee on your outfit and had to dash back home to change…

Do you immediately start thinking you’ll get reprimanded by your boss, or worse, fired?

Do you automatically perceive the day as totally ruined and you might as well pack off?

Do you think you must be absolutely perfect, otherwise you’re just complete trash?

If any of that sounds remotely familiar, then there’s a high probability you tend towards pessimism–the polar opposite of optimism, which is commonly defined as the tendency to think that good things will happen in the future.

Being an optimist means you’re cheerful, grateful, and purpose-driven…

And you tend to:

  • Look on the brighter side of things instead of dwelling on the negatives
  • Highlight the successes rather than being preoccupied with the downfalls
  • Seek solutions to challenges instead of constantly finger-pointing at problems

The benefits of optimism and staying positive are countless and include lower stress levels, improved coping skills and capacity, higher energy levels, increased resilience, creativity, improved well-being, reduced pain, decreased depression, reduced risk of heart disease, attack, stroke, and other cardiovascular diseases, better quality of life, and ultimately extraordinarily long life, to name but a few.

And talking of optimism, there are some things you can do to transform your pessimistic thoughts into optimism:

  • Start your day off with a mantra, quote, philosophy, or song that gets your mind and spirit right
  • Focus on applying optimism to one area of life at a time–career, family, health, wealth-creation, etc
  • Stop taking yourself and life so seriously
  • Exercise regularly–it’s a natural tonic for your mind and a gateway to the benefits of positive thinking
  • Examine your circle of friends–are you surrounding yourself with complainers or encouragers?
  • Practice gratitude–embrace an abundance mindset, count your blessings and you’ll always show a profit
  • It may be natural for you to point out what’s not going right, but make it a conscious practice to highlight the positive in every situation–even if it seems trivial.

As a man thinketh…so he becomes…

If you see it in your mind, you’re going to hold it in your hand!

Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so you shall become!

Life is a matter of energy…and the kind of energy you generate within yourself determines what happens to you…

Like attracts like!

And it’s really up to you to choose.

You see, you are confronted with choices every now and then…

And you must choose one or the other…because you cannot have both!

Be smart and wise in your choices!

Are you inspired? Go forth and infect others…by sharing this article!

Many thanks for your time here.

Stay tuned…


the amazing power of the tongue

<script data-ad-client="ca-pub-3828106578819360" async src=""></script>

You may have heard this many times, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me!”


Think again…

Probably, you’ve heard or even said this to yourself or someone you care about more times than you can remember…

And while it has good intentions, the reality is…it couldn’t be further from the truth!

Words have tremendous power–they can hurt and they can heal

They can tear down someone’s world or build it up.

Thanks in part to the expanded lines of communication like social media and text messaging, people are more likely than ever to rip each other apart with offensive words as they hide behind the thin veil of technology.

And if that wasn’t bad enough…

We’re the masters of getting in our own way!

Yes…it may seem like the world is out to get us, but we’ve got enough going on under the hood to get ourselves out of the game with self-sabotaging words and negative thoughts i.e. inner dialogue and venomous remarks about others.

In his seminal book, “The Four Agreements“, Don Miguel Ruiz urges readers to be impeccable with their words:

  • Speak with integrity
  • Say only what you mean and mean what you say
  • Avoid using words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others
  • Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love

Your words have the power to both create and destroy.

The words we choose build our own reality and the reality of those around us. Be thoughtful and careful about you say.

You have great power in your speech that can unleash a forceful fury that can hurt, tear down, or positive energy that can create, build, and heal.

Every time you open your mouth is an opportunity to stay true to yourself and what you value…or an opportunity to stray from that path.

It’s up to you whether the self-fulfilling prophecies you articulate become a delight or a dungeon for yourself and those around you.

Ask yourself…

  • How do I speak to myself and others?
  • In what ways is my speech positive and encouraging?
  • In what ways do I have a hard time controlling my tongue?
  • How do others speak to you?
  • Are there people around you who gossip and speak negatively about others?
  • Who are the encouraging people who lift you and others up?

Think of an area of life you tend to complain about or speak negatively of. Challenge yourself to find a way to express gratitude every time you’re tempted to complain…

Because when you count all of your blessings, you’ll always show a profit.

There is life and death in the power of the tongue…

And what you say–positive or negative takes the first profound effect on you!

Use savory words…

Season your speech with salt!

Change what you tell yourself…for no one really knows enough to be a pessimist“–Norman Cousins

Your words have the power to start fires or quench passion

And if your lips would keep from slips, observe five things with care: To whom you speak; of whom you speak; and howwhen…and where–Anonymous.

And…if you see it in your mind…you’re going to hold it in your hand!

Do you find this article inspiring?

Share widely within your circles to positively impact others.

My heartfelt gratitude for your patronage.

Stay tuned for more…